Years ago, I found myself at a critical crossroads. I was in my second marriage and unhappy. Our life looked amazing from the outside, so why wasn't I happier? How could I even contemplate a second divorce? What was wrong with me that I still couldn't get this right?
I didn't want to spend years talking about everything that wasn't working, I wanted to learn how to actually become happier.
Then I picked up What Happy People Know, and it introduced me to Positive Psychology. It completely changed the way I looked at personal growth. Instead of focusing on what was wrong with me, it asked different questions: Who are you when you're at your best? What are your strengths? What helps you flourish?
Deep down, I knew there was more waiting for me.
I just didn't know how to find it, or if I had the courage to create it. So I enrolled at the Wholebeing Institute to study Positive Psychology under Harvard professor Tal Ben-Shahar. I didn't do it because I planned to become a coach. I did it because I wanted to change my own life.
As I began using these tools, I gave myself permission to dream again. I uncovered strengths I'd forgotten I had, replaced self-doubt with confidence, and learned to approach life with a growth mindset instead of fear. It was here that I learned what the four essential elements a relationship needs to thrive, and had to face that my marriage did not possess any of them.
I made changes that felt meaningful and lasting. Some of the changes were small, some terrifyingly big, but I finally felt like I was creating a life that was truly mine.
These are the same tools I use with my clients today, because I've experienced their impact firsthand.
But I also know what's possible when you stop settling for the life you think you should have and start creating the life you truly want.
Today, I'm happier, more fulfilled, and living a life that reflects who I am. I'm happily in a wonderful relationship, love supporting clients and teaching workshops, and enjoy a full active life with family, friends, travel, and a silly rescue dog.